MINOR: protocols: replace protocol_by_family() with protocol_lookup()

MINOR: protocols: replace protocol_by_family() with protocol_lookup()

At a few places we were still using protocol_by_family() instead of
the richer protocol_lookup(). The former is limited as it enforces
SOCK_STREAM and a stream protocol at the control layer. At least with
protocol_lookup() we don't have this limitationn. The values were still
set for now but later we can imagine making them configurable on the
fly.