MINOR: ssl/show_fd: report some FDs as suspicious when possible

MINOR: ssl/show_fd: report some FDs as suspicious when possible

If a subscriber's tasklet was called more than one million times, if
the ssl_ctx's connection doesn't match the current one, or if the
connection appears closed in one direction while the SSL stack is
still subscribed, the FD is reported as suspicious. The close cases
may occasionally trigger a false positive during very short and rare
windows. Similarly the 1M calls will trigger after 16GB are transferred
over a given connection. These are rare enough events to be reported as
suspicious.