MINOR: tools: relax dlopen() on malloc/free checks

MINOR: tools: relax dlopen() on malloc/free checks

Now that we can provide a safe malloc_trim() we don't need to detect
anymore that some dependencies use a different set of malloc/free
functions than ours because they will use the same as those we're
seeing, and we control their use of malloc_trim(). The comment about
the incompatibility with DEBUG_MEM_STATS is not true anymore either
since the feature relies on macros so we're now OK.

This will stop catching libraries linked against glibc's allocator
when haproxy is natively built with jemalloc. This was especially
annoying since dlopen() on a lib depending on jemalloc() tends to
fail on TLS issues.