MINOR: dgram: allow to set rcv/sndbuf for dgram sockets as well

MINOR: dgram: allow to set rcv/sndbuf for dgram sockets as well

tune.rcvbuf.client and tune.rcvbuf.server are not suitable for shared
dgram sockets because they're per connection so their units are not the
same. However, QUIC's listener and log servers are not connected and
take per-thread or per-process traffic where a socket log buffer might
be too small, causing undesirable packet losses and retransmits in the
case of QUIC. This essentially manifests in listener mode with new
connections taking a lot of time to set up under heavy traffic due to
the small queues causing delays. Let's add a few new settings allowing
to set these shared socket sizes on the frontend and backend side (which
reminds that these are per-front/back and not per client/server hence
not per connection).