MEDIUM: proxy: centralize proxy status update and reporting

MEDIUM: proxy: centralize proxy status update and reporting

There are multiple ways a proxy may switch to the disabled state,
but now it's essentially once it loses its last listener. Instead
of keeping duplicate code around and reporting the state change
before actually seeing it, we now report it at the moment it's
performed (from the last listener leaving) which allows to remove
the message from all other places.